love yourself first before others

Love Yourself First Before Others

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The Korean Kpop group, BTS has taken the world by storm. In fact, They have been breaking numerous records one after the other since 2017. But did you know what it is about them that catapulted them to main stream global music industry? Well, apart from their talents and visuals, the group became internationally known after they release their Love Yourself album trilogy. In the albums, BTS tackled a very serious topic about self-love that left listeners around the world engaged. The message was clear. Love yourself first before others.

Why Love Yourself First?

Loving one’s self is a reflection of a healthy self-esteem. If we do not accept and love who we are, with all our faults and weaknesses, then we are not really capable of truly loving other people. Science has evidence that the feeling of unworthiness and self-hatred can negatively affect any relationship. Thus, negative feelings about yourself will ultimately affect how you deal with other people. That is why you need to be true to yourself and and be confident on who you really are. Moreover, any healthy relationship should be based on mutual trust. Consequently, hiding your true self from the very start will eventually tear that relationship apart.

How to Love Yourself?

Loving yourself is like treating yourself with respect. Think of people whom you love and respect. How do you treat them? Basically, you need to treat yourself the same way you treat those people. Be kind and be nice. Be careful of what you say to yourself in your thoughts. Most of the time, we ourselves are the most critical to ourselves. Also, part of loving yourself is taking care of your body. Eat nutritious food. Get enough sleep. Drink lots of water. Exercise regularly.

It is a challenge to be kinder to yourself if you are used to putting yourself down for many years. Thus, the first step to loving yourself is by changing the way you think about yourself through affirmations.

What are Affirmations?

Affirmations are positive words or statements that you repeat to yourself over and over until you believe them to be true. They are designed to challenge your thought processes and remove all negative thoughts that you have about yourself such as fear, anger, frustration, pain and impatience.

How does Affirmation Work?

An affirmation works because it reprograms your mind. However, for affirmations to work, it needs regular practice. Hence, doing it repetitively on a daily basis can change how you feel about yourself.

Launch Challenge

Start your day daily with positive affirmations. Every morning as you brush your teeth, look at yourself in the mirror. Stop and look at your eyes and say the following statements:

  • “I love you.”
  • “I am grateful for my life.”
  • “I am worthy of all the joys and blessings of the universe.”
  • “I am happy, healthy, wealthy and wise.”
  • “I am beautiful.”
  • “My confidence is soaring.”
  • “I accept myself for who I am.”
  • “I am ready and excited to what life has in store for me for today.”
  • “I trust my intuition.”
  • “My day is filled with possibilities.”
  • “I create the life that I want.”
  • “I am surrounded by people who supports me and wants me to succeed.”
  • “I am valuable and I make great contributions to the society.”

Do it consecutively for 28 days until it becomes a habit.

Alternatively, you can also opt to listen to or watch daily positive self-affirmations found in certain apps.


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