Have you ever had to choose between the things that feel good and those that are right? Have you experienced having to feel bad for doing something you didn’t want over something you’d rather be doing? These are quite normal dilemmas for us as adults. Sometimes, we have to do what needs to be done instead of what we truly want to do. However, everything should be in moderation. Sometimes we want to have fun too. Sometimes we need to indulge ourselves in what we truly want to do.
The things that make us feel good are the things that we’d rather be doing but we don’t always have the time for them. They are seldom in our priority list because there are always more important things to do first. We also don’t really prioritize them because we feel that we are selfish and we don’t want to feel guilty about it. So this is the challenge: prioritize choosing the things that feel good.
Self-Acceptance
The first step to this challenge is to accept that you have things that you want to do and that they are important too. These may be the things that you used to do as a child. People around you might consider your activity as doing nothing or being lazy. It doesn’t matter; accept that this is what you want and you want to make time to indulge in it. Recognize where you are in your journey and that you have personal needs and wants that you have to attend to. Right now, this is part of who you are and it helps you shape who you want to be.
Choose Yourself First
We are always obliged to look after other people’s needs of us first, sometimes to the detriment of our own needs. We have been taught to be kind, compassionate and not selfish. But if being unselfish is becoming a burden, then you are not honoring your own needs. You cannot pour from an empty cup. So be sure to make time to choose yourself over others too, especially when you know you really need to recharge and you’d rather just sleep at home. Sometimes saying yes to yourself, means saying no to others. Learn to set boundaries.
Feel Good to Attract More Good
One of the important things we learn about the Law of Attraction is that your feelings are a major part of your reality. You attract what you feel. So if you already don’t feel good about going to a party; then learn to say no and take your rest instead. Trust your intuition or gut instinct more than the urging of your friends. They might feel bad about it for a while but if they are really good friends, they will understand. You won’t only feel good when you get enough sleep; you also save yourself from extra expense and maybe some regret.
If I’m not saying ‘Hell Yeah!’ to something, then I say no.
– Derek Sivers
If you’re friends tell you that you missed out on all the fun; don’t give in to the FOMO. There will be a better opportunity waiting. Just trust in the process. Don’t forget to try something new from time to time. It is how you learn and grow. But be sure to listen to your gut and sometimes, if not most of the time, choose the things that feel good.
It’s really important that you feel good. Because this feeling good is what goes out into the Universe and starts to attract more of itself to you.
– Joe Vitale